How To Find Romance
On The Golf Course

Yeah Baby!!

One of the reasons I LOVE golf is because it stretches me like nothing else! Ever since the days when I used to whiff, (yikes, what a shock that is!) fear of failure in golf has haunted me.  I am a pretty decent player these days (yay!) but deep inside the fear of embarassing myself is still there.

I played golf for 15 years before I actually started to play well. My scores ranged right around 100 for eighteen holes and I LOVED to play!  Imagine how fun it was when my scores dropped into the seventies!  I worked hard at my game and did a lot of practicing at home (the old mat and mirror technique.)  My missed shots got less frequent, yay!  The irony is, I got even MORE embarassed when I would mess up.

I wasn’t a club thrower or obscenity tosser. No, I steamed on the inside.  I was a miserable person to play with, bless my golf mates’ hearts!  Being terrible to myself was the norm.  I HATED it when I couldn’t perform at my best.

My turning point came when tragedy struck. A young friend of mine was killed in a snow mobile accident.  He was only 34, a great guy, full of life and potential.  He was a passionate golfer and as a personal memorial to him, I vowed to never be a jerk in golf again.

My resolve to learn to be patient on the course has revolutionized the game for me. My acceptance of my own imperfections has lifted my self esteem.  Learning that golf is not a game that needs perfection in order to be enjoyed is a life long pursuit.  I still get frustrated.  I still hit shanks and worm burners.  But I am choosing to respond differently.

I can now have fun even on an off day.  I learned that if my ‘A’ game doesn’t show up on a given day, I can still have a heck of a good time with my ‘B’ game…..IF I choose to do so!  Yes, feeling better about yourself is the perfect way to not only LOVE this wonderful game, your improved self esteem will impact your off the course life too!

Golf stretches and stretches and stretches you! Each game is filled with problems to be solved, just like life!  Get out there and enjoy it!