I would ask this back…Do YOU know what you want?

Look at some of the answers I get to this simple question:

Do you want to be married?

• "I'm really not sure."
• "Well, not right away, but if something ended up there, I would be ok with it."
• "I kind of want to but if I met a nice man who didn't want to, that would be ok with me."
• "Not that important to me."
• "I never really thought about it."

Keeping you from making a clear decision on exactly what you want is on the Saboteur's A-List of Nasty Tricks To Keep You Single.  If you are not sure about what you want, you will get back a constant thread of "unsureness" and never truly relax.  A deep fear of being disappointed keeps you from making any clear decision.

How did I get so smart?  I lived for years compromising everything trying to protect myself from being disappointed.  Nothing worked.  When my first marriage ended, I made a decision.  I decided to find out why I felt so unsure about love.  Lots of people told me they loved me, but I never felt sure about it for myself.

Learning what it felt like to be out of alignment was a first step toward my own manifestation of my soul mate.  I was able to stop blaming the people who had hurt me and deal with the pain they were a part of.  It was life changing.  I felt lighter and lighter as I went along.  It was such a relief to stop thinking about all that drama and trauma.

If you have been indecisive about what you want in love.  Today is the day to change that.  Make a decision to want what you want.  Be honest with yourself and want the biggest and brightest future you can imagine.

If wanting your Secret Heart's Desire is too painful and makes you feel sad or frustrated, reach out and get some help.  The ache of a still broken heart is not a position of power when attracting New Love.

Decisions bring strength.  Your mind loves them because then it can go right to work creating the ideas you need to move you forward on your way to your future.  Change is possible and when you are feeling way out of alignment it is a sure call for a course correction.  Something is out of kilter or you wouldn't feel like that when you are holding your most cherished desire.

So does your Inner Being know what you want?  Of course.  And the really excellent news is that when you get what you really really want (Yes, that is what your Inner Being wants too) it feels better than you can imagine.  Do you have a decision facing you?  Be bold and make it. The reward is delicious!

Are you ready for a little Soul Mate Magic of your own?  Here's the First Step: http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and see how strong your Love Vibe is right now!

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$848 MILLION.

What if that very fashion accessory is KEEPING YOU SINGLE? 

Today on the CBS Morning Show there was a feature on a segment of that market, the Booty Boosters.  Apparently, the Butt is the '"It" factor in sex appeal this summer…no kidding!  According to the report, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian are making big money showing off their full, curvy butts and women all over the country are buying butt pads to enhance their booties.

How is this hurting your soul mate search?

The problem is that at the end of the day, you will be taking off your faux butt, taking out your contacts, peeling off your Spanx, sponging off your eye makeup and in every way being your true physical self with your man. 

If you want to attract True Love, there is only one way and that is to fully accept yourself….just the way you are, right now.  I don't know a single woman who doesn't dislike at least one part of their bodies.  How about you?

Are your teeth too yellow?  This is my personal challenge.  Even tooth whitening doesn't help.  Yes, the treatment lifted my color two to three shades but that is not enough to please me.  It doesn't help that NOBODY on stage and screen has 'normal' colored teeth anymore.  Don't believe me?  Watch a movie from the 70's and look at the smiles.

Maybe you wear glasses and over depend on your contacts for your sense of self worth.  Do you feel ugly with your glasses on? 

Is your hair your challenge?  Too curly, too straight, too frizzy, too little of it, too much of it?  Do you know that people spend over 2 trillion dollars on hair care products and services in one year?

Maybe it is your height that bothers you.  Is it near impossible to meet a man who is tall enough for your preferences?  Do you dislike being so short?

Maybe you hate your feet, your freckles or your facial hair.

The botox business is booming and don't get me started about plastic surgery.  Imagine how much travel you could pay for with the money you are spending to create an image you hope will attract Love and Connection.

What's a body to do?!?

There is nothing wrong with enhancing and preening and preparing yourself to be noticed.  Illusion is fun and an important part of seduction and romance.  Women have been using cosmetics and jewelry for thousands of years to attract a man's attention.

The woman who get what she wants….a lasting relationship with a man who adores her, is the woman who knows the biggest secret of all.

She knows that the Truth of her attraction is her ability to accept herself…warts and all.  She knows that her external appearance is but a glimpse of her full Essence.  She understands that at the end of the day, a man wants to come home to someone who accepts him completely.

It is a humbling experience to feel deeply accepted by another human being….with no strings.  When you know you can offer that to a man, you are irresistible.  The best way to practice this magical attraction tool is to use yourself as a test bunny.  Write a list of all of the things that you don't like about yourself.  How many do you come up with?

If you only have 1 or 2, yay!  You are a role model for others and you no doubt have many friends and colleagues who enrich your life right now.  Even if you are still single, you are probably pretty content with your status right now.

If you have 4 or 5 flaws that bother you, you are about average.  You may find support in 12 step groups or a Course in Miracles Class.  Make a plan to cut your list in half.  Make a conscious effort to accept yourself at a deeper level than you have.  Your loneliness and isolation are directly related to these aspects that are draining you.

If you have over 7 personal issues that you dislike about yourself, I suggest you find a mentor, coach or counselor.  It is exhausting to carry this much self-criticism.  Believe me, no one notices whether your freckles are getting darker or your feet have a strange shape.  What makes a man feel great with you is his CONNECTION to you.  If he feels like you "get him" he will adore you.  The few 'flaws' that you have and are trying to cover up are keeping True Love just out of your reach.

Next time you want to buy something new to enhance your Outer Look, look in the mirror and ask yourself…"Will this help me accept myself or hide myself?"  This simple question is a powerful step in tuning in to your true identity.  It is who you REALLY are that is irresistible to that special someone!

Is it your time?  Is your Love Vibe being muffled by your self concept?  For a no-cost Love Magnet Reading, click here:  http://ResetYourLoveSetPoint.com

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Noticed any self sabotage lately? Here is a sign that your Saboteur has been in action.  Since you have been reading this blog, a part of you has been tempted to take action and contact me.

But, there is another part of you who is resigned to the status quo and believes that change is too hard, too time consuming and ultimately a waste of time.

And yet, you keep reading the posts….

Meet your Saboteur.  Seeing herself as a super hero, she makes sure that you don't take a chance and get hurt again.  She is good at her job, I bet you can't remember a time when you were open to a man.  Maybe you've never trusted any one with your true heart.

And yet, you read on….

That inner tug of war is exhausting, isn't it?  Well there is a very good reason for that.  Some of the battle with your Saboteur is physical…that's right, physical.

When it comes to LOVE, your default vibrational setting is stuck in Fight or Flight.  Many of you feel weak knees, nausea and dry mouth even thinking about what you would do if a great looking guy approached you. 

How did that happen?  It is really quite simple.  As a little human being, you were impressed with what you saw around you and you took everything you saw and heard as gospel truth.  No wonder you feel intimidated by Love.  Some of the people who were supposed to show you what Love was like, didn't have a clue themselves.

As always, when you get information like this, I hope it brings a lot of self compassion.  There is a very good reason why you are still single.  Once you understand that, you can make a plan and address these false impressions you have been carrying all of these years.

Here are three sure fire vibe shifting exercises you can do that will boost your confidence and lift your spirits:

1.  Go outside.  I tell this to all of my clients.  Just getting a breath of fresh air can really make a difference.  If you have any plants in the garden, bury your face in the leaves and breathe. Smell the life around you.

2.  Get a drink of water.  Most of you are dehydrated right now.  Squeeze a fresh lemon wedge into your glass or add a sprig of fresh rosemary.  Dress up your water and drink deeply.

3. Write 5 things you have accomplished that you are proud of.  Sometimes it is easier to see what is not working, who is not showing up in your life and how much Love is not here yet.  When in reality, you have had a great year so far.  You have been addressing your goals and moving forward.  Find the evidence and write it down.  Be your own cheerleader for a change!

The simplest ideas can shift your vibration and set your manifestations into hyper-drive.  Remember, True Love is pursuing YOU!  It is your destiny to be loved and to love deeply.  Never give up on your dreams!

Curious how strong your Love Vibe is? You can get a free Love Magnet Reading by clicking right here:  http://ht.ly/2anKt

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Over the years, she even secretly named them.   Whiney, Negative, Complacent, Unmotivated, Stubborn, Naive and Annoying.  Resentment was a constant battle.  She was such a sweet thing and didn't get angry very often and she really enjoyed helping them part of the time.  But, she never felt appreciated at the deepest level.  When they hi-hoed-hi-hoed and off to work they went….she took care of that whole household….with no electric appliances.  The end of the day came and her to do list was never done so the next day all she had was the same routine…..again.

How do you tell if you are a Snow White?  Maybe you are a Scarlett O'Hara, Rapunzel or Sleeping Beauty. Everyone has a Self Sabotage Style, I call them True Love Saboteurs and I find these most common.  Snow Whites are lovely women.  They are kind, generous to a fault, reliable and faithful to a fault.   They crave financial security and yet are chronic under-earners.  They strongly believe that their service to others will give them the connection they are hungry for.  Most have no idea what True Love really feels like so their love magnetism is scattered and confusing.

Because The Saboteur's only task is to make sure your beliefs are supported and stay true, this is a powerful energy source with in you. She is truly a master.  It is tangible proof of the power of focus. 

How do I know?  You are still single.  No matter how desperately you want a partner, it is not happening.  Your Saboteur is working overtime, underneath the radar, supporting the belief that trusting a man again will be too devastating to handle.  For many Snow Whites, the stomach clenching fear about what will happen if the next man is not the one, is enough to unconsciously opt for singleness.

In fact, most Snow White's have taken steps to move on from the past and recognize what they have been doing is not working.  Many of them are out of touch, perhaps numb, to the inner turmoil.  Like ashes after a forest fire, there is emotional residue cluttering up the Inner Landscape.  A part of you is terrified that you will not find someone.  Your Saboteur is doing everything it can to make sure you don't feel how afraid you are.

What's the solution?  The first step is to check in to see if Snow White's Saboteur Style fits:

How To Recognize Snow White:

•  Doesn't enjoy social events where there are mostly couples.
•  Allows schedule to fill with lots of activity but not much substance.
•  Needs to feel validated, almost manic about being right.
•  A tender spot for animals.  Some feel their soul mate is their pet.
•  Holds a grudge, hard to let go of disappointment.
•  Hard to say no.  Feels sucked into things she doesn't want to do.
•  Had a very strong imagination as a young child.
•  Her friends see her as sweet and kind though at some level, she doesn't get that.

The second step is easy.  If you feel you might have a True Love Saboteur underneath your relationship radar, just click the link below and we can set up a complimentary consultation.  I can show you if your Saboteur is activated and how much control she has over your love life.

                                                                        XOXOXOXOXO

Want an instant reading of YOUR magnetism? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and see how strong your Love Vibe is right now!

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In Pensacola Florida, people are getting sick from the fumes they are breathing. Animals are washing up on the beaches and these are only the ones we see. Life as we know it in the gulf is being destroyed.

"The oil doesn't know it is not supposed to be there." Michele goes on to say. A shamanic practitioner and astrologist, she has been drumming and chanting on her beloved Florida beaches for weeks.

She is a gifted empath and 'feels' the pain of the displaced people in the area. "It is just like the stages of grief," she says "most people are in shock and they are too stunned to mobilize."

Michele is stirring up her community with her message, "I LOVE BP!" She is hoping to wake up women from around the country and challenges them to stop bashing BP and allowing hate to flow into the toxic mess. "Love is all that can heal the planet and our hearts." She says passionately.

What do you think? Today, Michele is my special guest on Attract Your Soul Mate Now Radio. We are going to talk about the spill, the clean up and most of all the mission of http://HandsAcrossTheSand.com/ This Saturday at noon, people are gathering on beaches throughout the world to meditate, pray and send love to our beloved waters.

You won't hear a more passionate ambassador for our struggling coastal community. Please tune in today at 10 am pst.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/attractyoursoulmatenow/2010/06/23/sending-love-to-bp-passionate-floridian-leading-the-charge

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I am a Bachelor and Bachelorette fan.  A guilty pleasure?  I suppose, but I find it oddly entertaining to watch the people have their 15 minutes of fame.  Some seasons are better than others, that is for sure.  I never thought Jake and Vienna were a forever couple.  I think she was too young for him.  Is it possible for anyone to find more than a fling on the show?

There has been one successful marriage.  Ryan and Trista drew 17 million viewers to their wedding in 2003.  According to all reports they are living blissfully in Colorado.  For the most part, the rest of the couplings have barely lasted a year.  The jury is still out on Molly and Jason.

What I love about the show is the desire that the men and women have to find True Love.  I listen to the conversations and I hear the longing in each voice.  Last night, poor Kasey was left alone on an Icelandic Glacier as the helicopter carrying Ali and Bad Boy Justin back to the hotel.  Cold cruel world, isn't it?

Who is my pick?  I like Roberto myself.  He seems like a good guy and may have a chance.  Frank is appealing but the chemistry seems to be fading a bit.  Why do I care?  Because I am a happily-ever-after girl myself and I can't help but wonder if this year's winning Bachelor will beat the odds.

I do feel for Jake as he must be tired of going back to the drawing board.  Maybe he could audition for Survivor…

Want an instant reading of YOUR magnetism? http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and see how strong your Love Vibe is right now!

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Rapunzels are the lovelies I work with who are not even aware that they are locked away and unavailable to True Love.  The interior of their tower is full of vision boards and lists of the perfect match, but when it comes right down to it, there is no way for a man to get in.

One small window at the top of the tower let's her look out at the sea of possibility right outside, but heartbreak and disappointment from the past keeps her separate and out of the game.  Like the Rapunzel in the fairy tale who had to let the poor guy climb up her hair (ouch!!) our modern day Rapunzel is afraid that the emotional pain and risk of letting a man get close is just not worth it.

She stares longingly out the window at the handsome guys passing her by and daydreams about a future life she has no idea how to get.  As years go by, the tower gets taller and more severe, making it harder and harder to see the men who could bring her the love she so desperately wants.

Could you be a Rapunzel?  Check these symptoms and see if your recognize yourself:

1.  Hasn't had a long term relationship in over 5 years.

2.  Enjoys being home alone.

3.  Has a closer relationship with her pet than she does with a man.

4.  Turns down invitations.

5.  Has a traumatizing breakup in the past that still stings.

6.  Acutely lonely.

7.  Is secretly terrified of change.

Is this you?  Well, Rapunzel, how long are you going to stay up there in that tower?  Who holds the key to your future?  Unlike the fairy tale, there is no wicked witch who has locked you in there.  And, you don't need to let anyone climb up your hair to set you free. 

Just acknowledging that you have checked out and been out of commission for awhile will start to shift things for you automatically.  Start by looking at your life from a new vantage point.  Face how long it has been since you have been out in circulation and take an action step to change that. 

Check out meetup.com and find a group to join.  There are groups for every interest imaginable…from photography to wine drinking to hiking.  Volunteer at your area animal shelter and love on those lonely pups and kittens.  Just do one thing out of your ordinary routine.  Find a coach or mentor who can equip you to re-enter the dating scene.  Above all, choose to commit to changing your vantage point.  True Love is not a distant dream….it is closer than you think.

Do you wonder what your chances are for Soul Mate Success?  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and get your Soul Mate Success Score right now!

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Now that she is 39 for the last time and 45 is around the corner, she is tired of being a good sport.  "I never thought I would still be single," she wailed to no one in particular.  Living alone had become a nightmare and the reality that children were not likely stabbed through her like a knife.

"Why did I ruin it?" she sobbed.  "He wasn't that bad.  I thought he was The One at first.  He was really into me.  But the minute I started to talk about marriage, everything completely changed."  She began to cry uncontrollably.  "He was my last chance, I just know it."

This birthday was really painful.  Last year she had taken Todd home and introduced him to her family.  He didn't want to be called a 'boyfriend' but she chose to ignore that.  SHE knew that he was, even if he didn't say so.  She had waited almost 6 months before approaching the Commitment Talk.  He pulled away faster than the D.C. metro.  And now…she was alone….again.

Diana glanced at her voice mail….10 messages.  She couldn't bring herself to listen to all the birthday greetings.  She hated her birthday and every year, as she kissed her dreams good by, it got worse plus time kept getting faster and faster.

Is it too late for Diana?  Unless she does something to change her attitude, yes.  Harsh?  Maybe.  Honest?  Yes.  Diana has put so much pressure on herself to manifest a husband and family that she broadcasts a desperate vibe that is turning every prospect away.  She thinks she can put on a happy face and 'act as if' she is fine but she is not fooling anybody.

What would I tell her if she asked me?  I would remind her of the meaning of insanity….doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result each time.  I would ask her a few important questions like these:

1.  Did you have a boyfriend that broke your heart in high school?

2.  Has anyone ever cheated on you?

3.  Was your dad cruel or manipulative or absent?

4.  Did a male teacher belittle you or humiliate you in public?

5.  Have you been raped or beaten?

If Diana answered yes to any of these questions I would tell her this:  Those past experiences left an imprint on you that is here right now as strong as it ever was.  Memories with painful emotions attached to them are controlling your every move when it comes to choosing the men you allow to get close to you.  Find someone to help you release these painful imprints.  Whether it is a pastor, a counselor, a coach or other mentor, don't try to do this alone.

If your microwave is on the blink, you don't take a screwdriver to it, take it apart, rebuild it and put it back together, do you?  Why do you think you can find your own problem, take yourself apart and then rebuild your heart by yourself?  If you are REALLY serious about finding a soul mate and building a family, there is one thing you absolutely must do.

You must do something, no make that everything, differently than you have so far.  If marriage has eluded you, face the music and change course.  Don't let the painful memories from the past stop you from finding True Love.  Once you set a new course, get the marching orders from someone able to help you and then move forward….you will find what you are looking for.  I promise.

Do you ever wonder if it is too late for you?  Did you answer "yes" to any of those questions?  If so, I would love to speak to you.  Go to http://ResetYourLoveSetPoint.com and tell me your story.  Once upon a time, you believed that True Love was possible, let's restore that dream.

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