I was out practicing at the driving range the other day with my sweetie.  Once again, I was in the minority.  It is fun being the only girl around! When I was teaching golf, I had a hard time convincing many of my students to actually practice.  They would tell me they always hit a few balls before their round and that was their idea of practice.

Funny, these players never saw much improvement.  Serious players, wanting to improve their game are a great group of guys.  Here are some of the reasons I love them:

1.  They would rather be outside on a sunny Saturday afternoon than at home on the couch watching football. Yes, they probably are Tivoing the game, but that is a different issue!

2. Many notice and compliment the rare woman who makes an appearance at the range. Single women crave being noticed and appreciated by guys and golfers truly appreciate a woman who knows what she is doing out there.

3. Guys are ready to have a putting or chipping contest. It is really easy to strike up a casual conversation over a practice session.  Don’t believe me?  Just try it!

4. Golf Etiquette inspires politeness. The golf environment is usually pretty gentlemenly.  Yes, there are the occasional yahoos in the ranks of amateur golfers.  For the most part, though, the men are respectful about how they behave out there.

5. A woman is treated the way she EXPECTS to be treated in golf. I hear all kinds of stories about how rude and classless some men are on the golf course.  I can honestly tell you, that is not my experience.  I have met and continue to meet the best men around when I go to practice or play.

If you are a single gal who wants to pal around with the fantastic guys who love the game of golf, you have nothing to lose by taking some lessons with your area golf pro and hitting the driving range.  Set an intention to be the best player you can be and you WILL attract some pretty suh-weet attention out there!  Can romance be far behind?

“I used to have friends that just just hung out together.” She sighed. “ We didn’t have to make plans or anything  We just hung out”.  The woman on the other end of the phone continued, “I think I just gave up trying years ago.”  Can you relate?

Where did our social circles go anyway? Years ago it seemed we easily congregated in some one’s apartment or dorm room. Young moms might gather occasionally at the neighborhood Starbucks, but eventually work environments become the main social environment.  How few of us work with groups of people who are genuinely supportive and kind to one another.  On good days ambivalent and on bad ones down right hostile, no wonder we isolate ourselves more and more as we get older. continue

I wonder where the term “golf widow” came from in the first place.

I spend a lot of time doing my own thing while my man is on the golf course and believe me, I don’t wear black and mourn!! After going through a couple of seasons away from the game because of a health challenge, I am back playing, though not nearly as often as my honey.

It was my first husband’s passion about golf that got me into the game in the first place. I was 22 and quickly surmised that if I wanted to spend time with him, I needed to take up golf. Fortunately, I LOVED it. As a matter of fact, I became consumed with the game on my own. But I do have him to thank for getting me into golf in the first place.

But golf WIDOW? Yikes! What a stark and awful image. continue

There is a secret out there that single women need to know about.

This secret is not for EVERY single woman, just the ones who have been wondering where the terrific, athletic, passionate, fun, ambitious, upwardly mobile and intelligent guys have been hiding out. Yes, ladies, I am talking about the golf course.

Now before you all start squawking out the list of reasons why “That will never happen!” Hear this:

75% of all the golfers playing the game are…..MEN.

Terrific, athletic, passionate, fun, ambitious, upwardly mobile and intelligent men. Three to one. Think about that a minute and then let’s look at the Seven Myths Women Believe About Golf. continue

I love to flirt on the golf course.

It feels really good, extra good for some reason, to have a man’s attention and appreciation on the golf course.  Even though I am married to my golfer and ADORE my time on the golf course with him, (I am still flirtier with him  on the course than anywhere else!)  I still enjoy the attention of men who notice my presence on the course.

When I first read the statistics I couldn’t believe them.  Only 1 out of 4 golfers are women. Then my mind immediately went to all of the stereotypical reasons why that is probably so:

Golf is a good old boy sport and doors are closed to women.

Golf is only played by Republicans.

Women don’t have the time or inclination to play golf.

There are not as many opportunities in golf for women as there are for men. continue

It is a beautiful day, perfect for golf and you are walking along, playing a fairly good round.  You start out a little tight but once you have a couple of shots under your belt, your natural rhythm kicks in and the game gets easier.  You relax and your performance improves.

You make your way along the course and for the most part, you play right down the middle working steadily toward the goal.  Creating a score that meets your expectations feels wonderful.  Seeing your talent and potential steadily improving is a heady feeling and your confidence is soaring.

Then, seemingly out of the blue, you take your normal shot and off the ball goes…dead right! A shank!  Where did that come from?  continue

I was out at the driving range the other day, practicing my putting, and three, count them three men approached ME trying to be cute and flirty. Now, mind you, I am married….to a man I met on the golf course, and I am still attracting attention.

Ladies, if you want to buy a rose, you go to the florist, don’t you? Well, if you want to meet great guys who are athletic, passionate and don’t sit on the couch on Saturday afternoons, you have to go where they hang out! Don’t let your shyness or lack of experience get in your way!

It is so simple to appeal to a man in the golf world. There is even a golf dating site that is designed to help you find you find the perfect match. Take a peek:

Moving from across the country, meeting a soul mate was not my first priority.

I divorced after 29 years and quite frankly, I was having a ball being single! I particularly remember the first time I took myself out for dinner at a beach front fine dining establishment here in San Diego. A million miles away from my life in Milwaukee as a wife and mom of two now adult kids and professional golf instructor, I toasted to my own future.

I had a plan, sort of, to meet people and make a new life for myself and I forged ahead with more courage I didn’t know I had. Starting life over at 50 for me was spectacular and I have had the time of my life, even though I had a few unexpected challenges and setbacks. I thought I would teach golf in Southern California however that door didn’t open and so using painting ability I didn’t know I had til I was 48, I began painting murals in people’s homes and following the principles of the Law of Attraction, launched a small life coaching practice.

Today I am SO excited to be combining my two loves in what seems like a natural connection. You see, I DID attract my second Soul Mate and met him on the golf course….for real. My story is a happily ever after that I never expected. When I met Larry who routinely shoots even par golf, I didn’t see him as a love interest at all. We were golf buddies for over a year before before I saw him in a romantic way. That story is one worth telling and I am working on that right now! I am living the best mulligan ever!

If you are a golfer who is looking for love, I believe in you and your dream. Follow me on Twitter and I will share exactly how I met Larry and how we are keeping the Soul Mate Fires Burning. Love is so worth waiting for and searching for.

It feels amazing to be someone’s Beloved and I stand humbly grateful!