This message was sent to my http://Meetup.com group The Law Of Attraction and Soul Mates. We meet in San Diego and have a meeting this Saturday. For more info check out http://LOAinLove.com

Enjoy:

“My firm belief is that when a MAN meets a WOMAN that HE really, *really* likes, then HE will move heaven and earth to be with HER.

A quick phone call to say “hi” will not be a task HE has to try to find time to fit into HIS incredibly busy day of working and sitting through meetings HE doesn’t even want to attend, but an exciting, joy-filled moment purposefully snatched to bring sanity and reason to why HE is putting up with all the other BS.

Spending some time together will be something that becomes a priority simply because it brings HIM great happiness. No other reason needed. HIS need and willingness to shower HER with love, affection, and attention (or just be in HER space), to make HER feel special and cared for (liked, loved, whatever), will be in the forefront of HIS mind throughout HIS day, because seeing HER smile and hearing the happiness and excitement in HER voice is a measure of success HE lives by.

HE will be HER greatest cheerleader in life, certain SHE can walk on water with beauty, grace, and ease and HE will forever stand by HER side reminding HER how talented, brilliant, and accomplished SHE is and always will be.

And simply looking in HER eyes will remind HIM how special HE is to HER.

And, without a doubt, for ALL OF THE ABOVE, SHE will be all of that and more to HIM.”

Beautifully written, Thanks Tom!

Yeah Baby!!

One of the reasons I LOVE golf is because it stretches me like nothing else! Ever since the days when I used to whiff, (yikes, what a shock that is!) fear of failure in golf has haunted me.  I am a pretty decent player these days (yay!) but deep inside the fear of embarassing myself is still there.

I played golf for 15 years before I actually started to play well. My scores ranged right around 100 for eighteen holes and I LOVED to play!  Imagine how fun it was when my scores dropped into the seventies!  I worked hard at my game and did a lot of practicing at home (the old mat and mirror technique.)  My missed shots got less frequent, yay!  The irony is, I got even MORE embarassed when I would mess up.

I wasn’t a club thrower or obscenity tosser. No, I steamed on the inside.  I was a miserable person to play with, bless my golf mates’ hearts!  Being terrible to myself was the norm.  I HATED it when I couldn’t perform at my best.

My turning point came when tragedy struck. A young friend of mine was killed in a snow mobile accident.  He was only 34, a great guy, full of life and potential.  He was a passionate golfer and as a personal memorial to him, I vowed to never be a jerk in golf again.

My resolve to learn to be patient on the course has revolutionized the game for me. My acceptance of my own imperfections has lifted my self esteem.  Learning that golf is not a game that needs perfection in order to be enjoyed is a life long pursuit.  I still get frustrated.  I still hit shanks and worm burners.  But I am choosing to respond differently.

I can now have fun even on an off day.  I learned that if my ‘A’ game doesn’t show up on a given day, I can still have a heck of a good time with my ‘B’ game…..IF I choose to do so!  Yes, feeling better about yourself is the perfect way to not only LOVE this wonderful game, your improved self esteem will impact your off the course life too!

Golf stretches and stretches and stretches you! Each game is filled with problems to be solved, just like life!  Get out there and enjoy it!

On Oprah today I watched as she did a segment on the women living in Copenhagen, Denmark. I was struck by the comments of one particular woman.  She is tall, lean, blonde, 44 years old and enjoying her singleness.

Denmark has been named by researchers as the happiest country in the world.  There is free health care, free college (as a matter of fact, students are actually paid to attend college), a year paid maternity leave and four years support if you lose your job.

How is this paid for?  A 50% tax rate. Yet these beautiful women that Oprah interviewed were glowing with happiness.  The 44 year old single woman commented that because she is financially secure, she doesn’t need to be married to be happy.  Oprah described how different it is in the States were women obsess over being married.  Or better said, they obsess about GETTING married not being married.

That really got me to thinking.  I have two friends who are desperate to be married.  Beautiful, intelligent….actually tall, lean blondes in their thirties who are so anxious about NOT being married that they are a wreck. continue

What is a girl to do? Her man is heading off to the course for his typical Saturday round and she wishes she could go along. If you are beginning to want to have golf as part of your romantic life with your man, good for you!

Getting some lessons and a couple of buddies of your own to practice with is critical (See WomenOnCourse.com). You do need some basic knowledge to get into golf but once you have some experience under your belt, now what?

Here are the Top Ten Things You Can Say To Turn On Your Golfer: continue

I wonder where the term “golf widow” came from in the first place.

I spend a lot of time doing my own thing while my man is on the golf course and believe me, I don’t wear black and mourn!! After going through a couple of seasons away from the game because of a health challenge, I am back playing, though not nearly as often as my honey.

It was my first husband’s passion about golf that got me into the game in the first place. I was 22 and quickly surmised that if I wanted to spend time with him, I needed to take up golf. Fortunately, I LOVED it. As a matter of fact, I became consumed with the game on my own. But I do have him to thank for getting me into golf in the first place.

But golf WIDOW? Yikes! What a stark and awful image. continue

There is a secret out there that single women need to know about.

This secret is not for EVERY single woman, just the ones who have been wondering where the terrific, athletic, passionate, fun, ambitious, upwardly mobile and intelligent guys have been hiding out. Yes, ladies, I am talking about the golf course.

Now before you all start squawking out the list of reasons why “That will never happen!” Hear this:

75% of all the golfers playing the game are…..MEN.

Terrific, athletic, passionate, fun, ambitious, upwardly mobile and intelligent men. Three to one. Think about that a minute and then let’s look at the Seven Myths Women Believe About Golf. continue

It is a beautiful day, perfect for golf and you are walking along, playing a fairly good round.  You start out a little tight but once you have a couple of shots under your belt, your natural rhythm kicks in and the game gets easier.  You relax and your performance improves.

You make your way along the course and for the most part, you play right down the middle working steadily toward the goal.  Creating a score that meets your expectations feels wonderful.  Seeing your talent and potential steadily improving is a heady feeling and your confidence is soaring.

Then, seemingly out of the blue, you take your normal shot and off the ball goes…dead right! A shank!  Where did that come from?  continue

Moving from across the country, meeting a soul mate was not my first priority.

I divorced after 29 years and quite frankly, I was having a ball being single! I particularly remember the first time I took myself out for dinner at a beach front fine dining establishment here in San Diego. A million miles away from my life in Milwaukee as a wife and mom of two now adult kids and professional golf instructor, I toasted to my own future.

I had a plan, sort of, to meet people and make a new life for myself and I forged ahead with more courage I didn’t know I had. Starting life over at 50 for me was spectacular and I have had the time of my life, even though I had a few unexpected challenges and setbacks. I thought I would teach golf in Southern California however that door didn’t open and so using painting ability I didn’t know I had til I was 48, I began painting murals in people’s homes and following the principles of the Law of Attraction, launched a small life coaching practice.

Today I am SO excited to be combining my two loves in what seems like a natural connection. You see, I DID attract my second Soul Mate and met him on the golf course….for real. My story is a happily ever after that I never expected. When I met Larry who routinely shoots even par golf, I didn’t see him as a love interest at all. We were golf buddies for over a year before before I saw him in a romantic way. That story is one worth telling and I am working on that right now! I am living the best mulligan ever!

If you are a golfer who is looking for love, I believe in you and your dream. Follow me on Twitter and I will share exactly how I met Larry and how we are keeping the Soul Mate Fires Burning. Love is so worth waiting for and searching for.

It feels amazing to be someone’s Beloved and I stand humbly grateful!